Well, its been a while... And we had our final hearing about our kids...
Not going to go into details, but the result is long term foster care... I kind of expected that.
But it has been somewhat a time for reflection for me over the Psychological Assessment that I have viewed with such venom all this time. As among all the heaps of bull - There was some very good advice that sadly I missed.
It states in there that I should consider some form of treatment - Now at the time, I was actually so angry that I failed to see this... But now I am looking at it very seriously - But why?
Well, over the last few months, despite bringing my head into a good place, I have found myself falling into the same old routines... When people say words like "I love you" - My heart goes all a flutter and even though I know its a bad idea... I jump in head first!
This has become a sad pattern for me and so I am now seeking help to prevent this happening again or at least enabling me to control it.
So why am I writing this?
Well, as much as there are many complaints about these Psychological Assessments, and with very good reason a lot of the time - It has focused my mind on how important it is to read them thoroughly.
The biggest problem with these things is the jargon... Often you will miss good advice a midst the anger you will feel over more critical comments and the long words don't help!
So what should you do with these bundles?
ANNOY YOUR DOCTOR! Yup! Plain and simple... Take it to your GP and find out in Laymans terms what the Psychologist is trying to say... You may just miss information that, while hard to accept, may be helpful to you and could help you keep your children.
Part of the bad feeling where Psychological Assessments are concerned comes from the past history where a number of them have been found to have been bought and paid for to suit a motive...
Sadly, this does happen quite often even now... But if you speak with your GP you can try and pick the whole thing apart.
For me... Now finally getting the laymans view, I can now start making positive changes to my life... Sadly - Nearing 41, far too late... But still...
While I still hold a lot of venom towards Social Services, Hell - I had a Social Worker LIE quite blatantly to a Court (She was collared and subsequently lost a case she should have won due to her history with me... Ended up in front of the same judge and he threw the whole case out costing the Tax Payer thousands of pounds to have the case reassessed by a new team!), and though it goes against every fiber of my being - We must remember that Social Services for the majority do a good job.
The ideal of child protection is honorable, sadly, not all of those who choose the profession are...
I hope that in time, these blogs will offer a little hope to people...
So the key with a Psychological Assessment - READ EVERYTHING! And if you are not sure or too angry to see the better parts, Speak to your GP - There may just be a little something in there that could turn the tide and stop your children being the next victims of a corrupt social care system.
