In a report released on Monday 07 January 2013... Police were investigating the Murder of two Social Workers.
This was being shared around Facebook and, as you will no doubt expect, a lot of people who have lost their children to Social Services were quite happy to cheer about the deaths.
For me, it raised two annoyances...
The first, WHY OH WHY do we keep dragging up reports from the past? How does this help us to get the Government to accept - As Most of the other commonwealth countries such as Australia, that Forced Adoption has been used ILLEGALLY and make them apologise for the scandal?
But the other annoyance for me was that I saw myself in many of the posts... A side of me that almost destroyed me...
The side that is full of blind cold hatred!
In my experience with Social Services, I have met the Good, The Bad and the Seriously god damned Ugly!!!! And I have been abused by the system...
Since they became involved in my life again in 2011, I was subjected to many false claims and despite desperate attempts to get the truth out - I was fighting against a powerful 'Industry' that aimed to take mine and my wifes children...
The lies they were telling led me down a dark path... By 2012, I was spending more time on my computer writing letters and digging for the truth than I was with my son... My anger and hatred became an obsession!
Back then, I would gladly have taken arms and maybe tried to kill most of the Social Workers involved in our case - Except for one thing that kept me from reaching that point. I have morals! I CARE!
If I were to wish death on them, Then I was THEM! I had gave up very last bit of humanity left inside of me and failed my son entirely.
I have no love for the corrupt system... But I can never revel in death - Its wrong! Yes too many children have been wrongly taken from their parents, far too many have been abused physically and sexually over the years as well... The true extent of these abuses is still only just coming to light.
But to see posts such as "F**king SS Scum! They Deserved It!" leaves me horrified...
But why? Shouldn't we feel that way? Why should we not seek vengeance?
It was as I read the news report, that humanity struck me... And a reality.
"Lesley Caile, 48, a registered social worker who worked for Durham council, was found dead at her home in Hunwick, County Durham, on the morning of 24 December.
A 46-year-old man, Peter Edward Yorke, who lived at the property with Caile, appeared in court last month charged with her murder.
Caile, who had two children and three grandchildren, was “held in the highest regard” by her managers and colleagues, according to a tribute issued by her employer.'Held in the highest regard'
She had Grandchildren...
Should we revel in the pain they now feel? Should we become the very epitome of corruption we fight against? Should we be laughing in the face of those left behind simply because we have been hurt by the corrupt system?
I came to realise that, no matter how bad things get - To engage in blind hatred was to become the very system itself.
We are supposed to be doing this for our children... We are supposed to be showing the world that the Social Care System has LIED about us... That we are NOT the monsters they have made us out to be...
Yet we feel we can engage in such virulent abuse online... Where some day these children may see these comments and have to relive a long buried pain once again?
When I responded to this on Facebook, I did say to people I had bitter personal experience to go by... I was not lying.
It was about 12 years ago now that a Friend I had not seen since I first married was brutally murdered on his way home from the pub one night. He was no angel, In fact he was described in church as a "Diamond in the Rough" - He had been to jail in the past but would give his eyed-teeth to help anyone.
He was attacked by 5 teenage youths for no reason... He just asked them if they could make some room.
About a year or so later... I first came across Facebook, and a Memorial page someone set up for him...
...I also found a page made by his critics, Making the same vile attacks I have seen about these social workers. His 13 year old son also saw the posts...
Now think how that child felt seeing what was being said about his father... Is that not in itself a form of abuse?
I challenge anyone to place themselves in the position of these families - No matter what the wrongs of your murdered family member, Would you want to see this hate being put online? Would you like your child to be at risk of seeing this?
Of course we wouldn't! We are BETTER Than Social Services! WE HAVE HEARTS!
SO WHY DO WE FEEL WE CAN ACT EXACTLY THE SAME AS THEY DO?
I understand how painful it is when you have your child taken from you wrongfully... But if we allow ourselves to become Judge, Jury and Executioner... We have already lost the fight for our children.
We also find ourselves in an awful position... You see while we victims are many, We are still only a small number of 63.2 MILLION PEOPLE in the United Kingdom.
To fight for our children, to fight for their future, to fight for justice... WE NEED PUBLIC SUPPORT!
Be honest with yourselves... Is attacking and revelling in the Murder of two Social Workers going to convince the 63 Million we need to reach to support us? Or will they see us as the Thugs and Scum that the system has branded us?
In the comments posted to Facebook so far, I have yet to see anyone, and I mean ANYONE, say anything like "YEAH! You know what... F**k em! Damn Social Workers... Got what they deserved, But I DO feel sorry for the Grandkids... :("
There are CHILDREN that still suffer through this... We may hurt at having our children Stolen by the corrupt system... But we WILL see them again. These children have lost what we can only assume to be a loving grandparent under the most brutal of circumstances.
No one should EVER have to live through this kind of pain... Yet many victims of the corrupt system already do...
It still cannot justify our forgetting those left behind none the less.
No matter how angry we feel, The moment we forget that there are children involved in anyway, WE Lose the Moral high Ground... We become the very Corruption we fight so hard against!
The Public, The very people we need supporting us, will turn their backs if we do not rise above this. The whole reason we fight is because we are better than them... Isn't it? We fight because we have a heart... A heart that has been broken but a heart none the less... We fight for our children because we love them...
And so we should... But we should never cheer for such heinous crimes as the Murdered are not the only victims... Those left behind suffer as well.
Justice must be done... But not like this...
When you hear of things like this, I cannot blame anyone for the hatred felt towards the Social Services, In fact I would totally support it... But remember - Like us, Its their families and Children you should be thinking of... No matter how much you hate them, The pain left behind is something no one should ever have to face...
Its only my view... You are free to disagree...
But I do fear that our obsession will drive the public away... And without them. We will NOT achieve anything!
