Mastering The Myths Part 1

Well, Its been a while again, and I need to get back to keeping this up to date more often...

I have been quiet for a while but also having a good browse of the Facebook Pressure groups and have seen some very interesting questions being posed by people who want advice when it comes to Social Services.

Many Questions seem fairly simple and others are more complex and very generalized... But it has shown to me that there are many serious misconceptions about Social Services, especially what they CAN and CANNOT do...

So over a few blogs now, I am hoping to try and answer some of those questions from what i have learnt in my experience of them... For some areas I will be speaking to a couple of trusted people who I know work in Law, so we can hopefully make sure this is as accurate as possible.

I will also be discussing some other issues raised on the internet that can, and are, linked to various Conspiracy Theories. Let me just say before I do start this then that I am NOT going to support nor condemn the various "Ideas" of a New World Order... If you want to look into that and feel its real - Good! If not... Then that's good too!

The aim here is simply to try and help people understand that In's and Out's... Not to slate anyone's beliefs.

So I am going to start this with one that was making its way around Facebook not so long back:

"I Have been told that My child's Birth Certificate makes them My Property... Should I argue this in court?"

Yes, I have seen this one too... And the simple answer is NO! DO NOT EVER USE THIS ARGUMENT IN COURT UNLESS YOU WANT TO LOSE!!!

There is a Conspiracy Theory that "Birth Certificates" are in fact a form of Slavery, and that you should not register your child's birth as such, as they are then "owned by the state". An Interesting argument.

But when you take that theory into account and that many of these same theorists then advise people to demand their children returned as they are "Your Property" - Well, It sort of fails there.

Birth Certificates were introduced initially as a way of keeping an eye on the population, to monitor its growth etc... And it could be argued that they in effect mean "we own" our children.

But the law in the US and UK is very clear... NO ONE OWNS a Human Life...

We may give birth to our children but they are "free willed" beings - The moment you start suggesting a child is your property, then you are in effect saying "I own... I enslave" and needless to say, the law will DESTROY YOU for that very comment!

Children are NOT property under any circumstances... Even if the conspiracy theory is true - You should NOT argue their return based upon some right to ownership.

It is frustrating that hen a child is Fostered, the courts essentially "Own" your child - So it is understandable why people assume that they can argue this way, but it is a total myth! With the introduction in the UK of the so called "Cinderella Law", It would be suicide.

You can however argue that Social Care has treated your child as "Property" - In which case they would be guilty of abuse... But I must warn that proving such would be extremely hard, if not damn near impossible in the system as it stands.

As the law stands, eve if it is abused by the Care System... Your Child is a Free-willed Being, To claim your child is property is Slavery... DO NOT DO IT!

Dangerous Obsession? The pursuit of Justice is never easy...

God its been a long time since I wrote on this blog, but some discussions that start on "Facebook" are just not suitable to discuss there properly - And on came up just the other day...

In a report released on Monday 07 January 2013... Police were investigating the Murder of two Social Workers.

This was being shared around Facebook and, as you will no doubt expect, a lot of people who have lost their children to Social Services were quite happy to cheer about the deaths.

For me, it raised two annoyances...

The first, WHY OH WHY do we keep dragging up reports from the past? How does this help us to get the Government to accept - As Most of the other commonwealth countries such as Australia, that Forced Adoption has been used ILLEGALLY and make them apologise for the scandal?

But the other annoyance for me was that I saw myself in many of the posts... A side of me that almost destroyed me...

The side that is full of blind cold hatred!

In my experience with Social Services, I have met the Good, The Bad and the Seriously god damned Ugly!!!! And I have been abused by the system...

Since they became involved in my life again in 2011, I was subjected to many false claims and despite desperate attempts to get the truth out - I was fighting against a powerful 'Industry' that aimed to take mine and my wifes children...

The lies they were telling led me down a dark path... By 2012, I was spending more time on my computer writing letters and digging for the truth than I was with my son... My anger and hatred became an obsession!

Back then, I would gladly have taken arms and maybe tried to kill most of the Social Workers involved in our case - Except for one thing that kept me from reaching that point. I have morals! I CARE!

If I were to wish death on them, Then I was THEM! I had gave up very last bit of humanity left inside of me and failed my son entirely.

I have no love for the corrupt system... But I can never revel in death - Its wrong! Yes too many children have been wrongly taken from their parents, far too many have been abused physically and sexually over the years as well... The true extent of these abuses is still only just coming to light.

But to see posts such as "F**king SS Scum! They Deserved It!" leaves me horrified...

But why? Shouldn't we feel that way? Why should we not seek vengeance?

It was as I read the news report, that humanity struck me... And a reality.




"Lesley Caile, 48, a registered social worker who worked for Durham council, was found dead at her home in Hunwick, County Durham, on the morning of 24 December.
A 46-year-old man, Peter Edward Yorke, who lived at the property with Caile, appeared in court last month charged with her murder.

Caile, who had two children and three grandchildren, was “held in the highest regard” by her managers and colleagues, according to a tribute issued by her employer.'Held in the highest regard'
She had Grandchildren...

Should we revel in the pain they now feel? Should we become the very epitome of corruption we fight against? Should we be laughing in the face of those left behind simply because we have been hurt by the corrupt system?

I came to realise that, no matter how bad things get - To engage in blind hatred was to become the very system itself.

We are supposed to be doing this for our children... We are supposed to be showing the world that the Social Care System has LIED about us... That we are NOT the monsters they have made us out to be...

Yet we feel we can engage in such virulent abuse online... Where some day these children may see these comments and have to relive a long buried pain once again?

When I responded to this on Facebook, I did say to people I had bitter personal experience to go by... I was not lying.

It was about 12 years ago now that a Friend I had not seen since I first married was brutally murdered on his way home from the pub one night. He was no angel, In fact he was described in church as a "Diamond in the Rough" - He had been to jail in the past but would give his eyed-teeth to help anyone.

He was attacked by 5 teenage youths for no reason... He just asked them if they could make some room.

About a year or so later... I first came across Facebook, and a Memorial page someone set up for him...

...I also found a page made by his critics, Making the same vile attacks I have seen about these social workers. His 13 year old son also saw the posts...

Now think how that child felt seeing what was being said about his father... Is that not in itself a form of abuse?

I challenge anyone to place themselves in the position of these families - No matter what the wrongs of your murdered family member, Would you want to see this hate being put online? Would you like your child to be at risk of seeing this?

Of course we wouldn't! We are BETTER Than Social Services! WE HAVE HEARTS!

SO WHY DO WE FEEL WE CAN ACT EXACTLY THE SAME AS THEY DO?


I understand how painful it is when you have your child taken from you wrongfully... But if we allow ourselves to become Judge, Jury and Executioner... We have already lost the fight for our children.

We also find ourselves in an awful position... You see while we victims are many, We are still only a small number of 63.2 MILLION PEOPLE in the United Kingdom.

To fight for our children, to fight for their future, to fight for justice... WE NEED PUBLIC SUPPORT!

Be honest with yourselves... Is attacking and revelling in the Murder of two Social Workers going to convince the 63 Million we need to reach to support us? Or will they see us as the Thugs and Scum that the system has branded us?

In the comments posted to Facebook so far, I have yet to see anyone, and I mean ANYONE, say anything like "YEAH! You know what... F**k em! Damn Social Workers... Got what they deserved, But I DO feel sorry for the Grandkids... :("

There are CHILDREN that still suffer through this... We may hurt at having our children Stolen by the corrupt system... But we WILL see them again. These children have lost what we can only assume to be a loving grandparent under the most brutal of circumstances. 
No one should EVER have to live through this kind of pain... Yet many victims of the corrupt system already do...

It still cannot justify our forgetting those left behind none the less.
No matter how angry we feel, The moment we forget that there are children involved in anyway, WE Lose the Moral high Ground... We become the very Corruption we fight so hard against!

The Public, The very people we need supporting us, will turn their backs if we do not rise above this. The whole reason we fight is because we are better than them... Isn't it? We fight because we have a heart... A heart that has been broken but a heart none the less... We fight for our children because we love them...

And so we should... But we should never cheer for such heinous crimes as the Murdered are not the only victims... Those left behind suffer as well.

Justice must be done... But not like this...

When you hear of things like this, I cannot blame anyone for the hatred felt towards the Social Services, In fact I would totally support it... But remember - Like us, Its their families and Children you should be thinking of... No matter how much you hate them, The pain left behind is something no one should ever have to face...

Its only my view... You are free to disagree...

But I do fear that our obsession will drive the public away... And without them. We will NOT achieve anything!

New Year, New Start? Or just more of the same????

Well, its been a while... And we had our final hearing about our kids...

Not going to go into details, but the result is long term foster care... I kind of expected that.

But it has been somewhat a time for reflection for me over the Psychological Assessment that I have viewed with such venom all this time. As among all the heaps of bull - There was some very good advice that sadly I missed.

It states in there that I should consider some form of treatment - Now at the time, I was actually so angry that I failed to see this... But now I am looking at it very seriously - But why?

Well, over the last few months, despite bringing my head into a good place, I have found myself falling into the same old routines... When people say words like "I love you" - My heart goes all a flutter and even though I know its a bad idea... I jump in head first!

This has become a sad pattern for me and so I am now seeking help to prevent this happening again or at least enabling me to control it.

So why am I writing this?

Well, as much as there are many complaints about these Psychological Assessments, and with very good reason a lot of the time - It has focused my mind on how important it is to read them thoroughly.

The biggest problem with these things is the jargon... Often you will miss good advice a midst the anger you will feel over more critical comments and the long words don't help!

So what should you do with these bundles?

ANNOY YOUR DOCTOR! Yup! Plain and simple... Take it to your GP and find out in Laymans terms what the Psychologist is trying to say... You may just miss information that, while hard to accept, may be helpful to you and could help you keep your children.

Part of the bad feeling where Psychological Assessments are concerned comes from the past history where a number of them have been found to have been bought and paid for to suit a motive...

Sadly, this does happen quite often even now... But if you speak with your GP you can try and pick the whole thing apart.

For me... Now finally getting the laymans view, I can now start making positive changes to my life... Sadly - Nearing 41, far too late... But still...

While I still hold a lot of venom towards Social Services, Hell - I had a Social Worker LIE quite blatantly to a Court (She was collared and subsequently lost a case she should have won due to her history with me... Ended up in front of the same judge and he threw the whole case out costing the Tax Payer thousands of pounds to have the case reassessed by a new team!), and though it goes against every fiber of my being - We must remember that Social Services for the majority do a good job.

The ideal of child protection is honorable, sadly, not all of those who choose the profession are...

I hope that in time, these blogs will offer a little hope to people...

So the key with a Psychological Assessment - READ EVERYTHING! And if you are not sure or too angry to see the better parts, Speak to your GP - There may just be a little something in there that could turn the tide and stop your children being the next victims of a corrupt social care system.